So yeah, right now I should be studying/researching for the papers that are due after our break but whatever, I'm not really stressed right now. Anyhoo, as for the 2 people (and I'm including myself in this count) who read this blog, you will know that I am studying in the UK. I'm pretty sure that all of you know about how similar the two countries (US and the UK) are and blah blah blah...
So beginning the year off I was kind of assuming that. And then I realized how things are so very different at the same time. For this post I will focus on the idea behind the mancrush - I guess this concept is not necessarily very familiar in the States, as well, but it's a term that I use occassionally and Americans seemed to understand. For the record I am not gay. There is nothing wrong with being gay, I am attracted to women. Along that note, the mancrush is not gay - I guess it can be, at least it can be construed as gay. But the way I use the term mancrush, it is not gay. it's very similar in terms of the bromance - where two guys are just really good friends but spend a little too much time together (maybe bordering on the line b/w gay and straight w/o going over). I guess in a way the bromance starts with the mancrush.
But the way I use tends to be toward the direction of people who are definitely out of reach whether it's because the mancrush is a celebrity or professional bounds would make things really awkward. When a man has a mancrush on another man, he doesn't want to have sex with them or any sort of romantic relationship, it's just that one finds the other to be really cool and want to be close friends with them. However, close friends really doesn't say it very well. I don't want to say best friends either b/c I have a best friend and I don't want my mancrushes to be my best friend. It's at least a situation where one wants to have a relationship with the other to the point where they know pretty much everything about each other. When I was explaining this to my Swedish friend Lena, she equated it to like army buddies. I guess that's the best way to explain things. A mancrush is when one man wants to be army buddies with another man. There. That's a pretty simple, yet complex, and masculine explanation for the mancrush.
However, I'm not saying that army buddies have bromances with each other. They could but mancrushes may or may not lead to bromances. Bromances require that the guys spend all their time together, so essentially their in a nonsexual, nonromantic, heterosexual relationship. Now that I think about it, I think the concept of the mancrush was explained on an episode of Seinfeld. I don't really like that show anyway, but oh well, I tried.
But yeah speaking of being misconstrued as gay. So throughout parts of high school and college, people have called me or have accused me of being gay - I don't mean to use "accused" because that just sounds likes being gay is wrong, but for a lack of a better word, i'm using "accused." It's mainly because I've liked many things that "only gay people would like." you know like singing, dancing, musical theater, fashion (well me not so much but I do like looking good), etc. I have to say what is wrong with our society nowadays? we talk about progress but it seems the concept of the social norm keeps getting stricter and stricter. Afterall in the 1930s to 1950s, the manliest of men were doing things that are now considered gay - mainly singing showtunes. As a matter of fact, in some other societies it is truly honorable to be a master of some art form. There is only one criteria that determines gay or straight or bisexual, and that is the preference of sex (male or female) in a sexual/romantic context. hence the term sexuality. And if a guy is not gay but does a lot of "gay" things he is called metrosexual. Whatever, I guess I can consider myself pretty metrosexual, but then again I'm into martial arts, guns (as long as it is for sport/hunting/target-shooting purposes and not violence), knives, tools, etc. In fact, I consider myself a renaissance man. Yeah, that's it. whatever now back to hitting the books - wassa!!!
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